One month into my time in Jogja. Three months into my SALT journey. What a journey it has been so far! The last 3 weeks since I've written have been a rich learning experience and I am enjoying myself immensely. Every day has also been filled with the struggle of language practice, cultural blunders and extending grace - to myself and others. I am currently reading two books that have done their job of making me reflect on life.
Cross Cultural Connections (as homework) and
Prayer (by Philip Yancey). Some things I have learned:
Building trust.
I've had the opportunity to build many relationships in all of my communities, the three of them being my home, my church and the university. At home, I am learning how the family works and my place in it. Slowly I am becoming a daughter, much less the guest. Naturally I still do things differently and I'm sure this is not always the most appropriate or trust-strengthening. But hey, we're all learning together! The same goes for my church family. I'm actually starting to remember names and have real conversations. Progress!
At the university, I am learning how to interact with staff and students alike. I really really like the staff at the PPBA office and am getting to know them better every day. Building relationships also meant sitting at my coworker's son's dance competition for 3+ hours straight. It was great! I wish I could salsa, tango, rumba, waltz, jive and quickstep like that! With students, I've learned to be completely open and willing to give any information, because people are just plain curious! I've had a record number of "Friend Requests" on Facebook for a short period of time. To build trust, transparency is necessary!
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I'm going incognito. Bet you can't find me! With my friends at the beach |
I definitely think that one of the most important things I do this year is build relationships and, as part of the global church, learn with my brothers and sisters to strive for discipleship and a pure heart - one that desires nothing more than the kingdom of God.
Now trusting God, that's the most important one. There are definitely times that I feel low and incredibly tired and I need to know that God is still there. Instead of complaining that he's not there or wallowing in my apparent spiritual dryness, how good it is to just trust that he
never leaves and open my heart to him. A beautiful picture, from a letter written to Yancey:
"So many times when I pray I feel like I'm either shaking my fists in God's face (defiance) or pounding them on his chest (grief). Would that I could just place them on his knees, and have him hold my hands in his."
Something else that I discovered from Yancey's book: In Deuteronomy 34, Moses is only allowed to "see" the Promised Land from a distance; because of his lack of trust, he is not allowed to enter. But in Matthew 17, who shows up at the Transfiguration of Jesus on (traditionally) Mt. Hermon? Moses! Cool ya?
Cultural Differences.
This is obvious but I'll write it down anyways. I am constantly being pushed to accept new methods and new perspectives in this new context, even after three months. I'm still learning about the concept of time, relationship, religion, tradition and values. For example, I thought I was a pretty unselfish person until last weekend when I only grabbed one banana for the road, on the way to the famous Buddhist temple Borobudur. I should've been more sneaky; everyone immediately asked, where are the rest? Clearly, I lack skills in sharing! I know this because my family was still laughing at me three days later. Have I laughed at myself yet over this? Not quite. I'm only just starting to see the humour in it. That brings me to the next point.
Laughing.
Learning to laugh at oneself is ridiculously important! If the humour, the joy, or the simple difference in culture is not noted and I walk around with a perpetual frown, what a sad experience I'm going to have here. I admit, as above, that some situations are harder to giggle at than others. Last week at bible study, I was asked to share my opinion on the Chronicles. Some Indonesian people have a habit of talking about a person without ever looking at them - resulting in my embarrassment when I zone out of the Indonesian conversation and suddenly everyone is looking at me, waiting! I was very frustrated that this man singled me out, quite indirectly, and I was completely unprepared. I realized later that they just wanted to seize the opportunity to have a Western perspective on the topic. Unfortunately, I was too flustered and at that moment I forgot everything I knew about Chronicles. I confess my annoyed attitude toward this wonderful group of people and especially that particular man; he was the first to call me "artist" which I have translated to celebrity. I am quite honoured.
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The girls of Stella Duce school. What energy and excitement over the English/Canada lesson! |
Anyway, now that I've written some of my lessons down, here are some other highlights from the past 3 weeks:
- Receiving my bicycle! I've been riding to work now for 2 weeks and it is a joy. Although it's a long ride. In heavy traffic and humidity that has 20 degrees on Salatiga. Yeah, exercise!
- A Thanksgiving/English Club party at Kukup Beach. A beautiful location for fantastic fellowship with my family from the English department. Felt so blessed!
- A trip to Salatiga/Semarang for MCC business. Arriving at my host family's house there was such a treat. How I miss those two boys! Every time I get a surprise call from them, their sweet voices almost make me cry. "Kak Lisi, when are you coming back??" Aw.
- Potatoes. I've had more meals containing my favourite tuber and they just taste so good! As the title suggests, I love chicken sate and our German neighbour brought a gift, my national food. Milka! Mm!
- The Cinema 21 theatre. Those seats are more plush than anything I've ever had at home (even the grand Colossus in Langley, yes). I almost fell asleep! Too bad it was James Bond "Skyfall" and the constant shooting woke me up.
- I still get excited when I get to ride on the back of a motorcycle. My brother thinks I'm scared. I say Pshaw to that.
- My good friends from CBC getting engaged! :) So excited! Unfortunately I'm in Indonesia for the wedding.
- Experiencing Indonesian traditions like wedding receptions, birthdays and dances.
- Teaching an English class at a Catholic girls' school. I told them Justin Bieber was my neighbour. They REALLY liked that.
- Having conversations with my host family. I like it when they're all present. My father says ridiculously long words and some that I don't really need to know; my mother speaks at the best pace for me to understand; my brother is often the translator. We've talked about culture, caffeine, globalization, relationships, the Bible and the Javanese, Indonesian, English and German languages.
- Singing. I joined the church choir and performed for the first time on Sunday. The song was in English and Indonesian, so we all got to both shine and stumble a little bit! The congregation was surprised that I was up there but seemed to appreciate the bizarre soprano voice resounding from the front row.
- Going to Borobudur, the largest Buddhist temple in the world. Built in the 8th century, it's a huge 3 story structure covered in reliefs and Buddha statues. Loved it! Too bad it was raining every time we reached the top...
- Having a conversation with a random motorcyclist while waiting for the traffic light to turn red. Kudos to him for his courage to speak to the ridiculously sweaty white girl on a bike. It made my day!
- Joined the medical department today for a fourth-year class in serving foreign patients. The simulation went well, this is great for the students! I'm also getting to know the lecturers, of which one is helping me find a Probiotic for my persistent friend, IBS. It's not too bad here, but at least I can stay healthy :)
Thank you for reading this far and hopefully enjoying what you read! Three months down, eight more to go. Pray that the Lord grants me perseverance and joy in all that I do. Boy, do we know a great God that we can serve wherever we are :)
Blessings!
Lisi